Dilemma

I have been working on my mid year assessment work and M.O.T.H is away for two weeks sailing etc with a friend so I could make as much mess as I like but I am pretty much up to date with getting the work completed and now I find myself thinking about this issue that has arisen.
Doing my major research essay for Contemporary Art Studies was a bit of an ordeal. M.O.T.H. reckoned I was sweating blood over it and in some ways I was. Not over the actual writing but over issues it raised for me personally. We were pretty much able to choose our subject the brief being that it be about something that would help us in our work. I chose a working Title of "Artist/Artisan: Art/ Craft. When does the work become Art?" I ended up examining the art vs craft debate and it helped me decide where I stood on this issue.

Basically I need to work to my philosophy for my personal work, commission work is different of course and so is work used in teaching techniques but my personal pieces have become intensely personal over the past couple of years and I feel that I am developing some interesting areas of work to explore.

I have an interest in the environment and the sea as well as some stuff that touches on spiritual and emotional aspects of life that I want to explore but the problem is now that a group I am involved with have chosen a theme for our next show that on the surface appears rather shallow and bland. Aaargh I hate to say it but it actually is rather suburban mothers club stuff - I have not been active in this group over the past 18 months mostly due to health issues and school and wonder how I can approach it with the group without sounding like the thing I hate most- the snooty artist!!

So much of my life is still in a state of flux at present with the proposed move to the tropics etc that my work has taken on an deep importance to me- not that there is a lot going on at present but the ideas keep flowing and I am getting them down in writing if nothing else at the moment. I just dont know if I can compromise anymore and yet I hate conflict too so this is not an easy one for me.
I've talked to several close artist friends about this dilemma and their reactions have only underpinned my misgivings about this proposed theme. Oh for an easy life (decision) but something tells me that is not likely to occur. Aaargh!!